I've been seeing this picture posted all over downtown. It looks like something that would be sent into Postsecret. There really is a ton of pressure on people in their early 20's to get married in Utah.
It's fairly common for girls who are 20 or 21 years old to worry about marriage. It seems like being a 24 year old unmarried girl is just not ok. It's a little better if you are a guy. As most mormon boys do, they go on a mission for 2 years at the age of 18. So, if they go on a mission and then college, they could easily be 24 or 26 before they are ready to care for a family.
My boyfriend's sister is a great example. She is 21 and not married. She gets questioned about it all the time. And not from just the old church ladies but from girls her own age who are starting to get engaged or are already married.
Pushing people to get married young and then pushing them to have children soon after, may not be a great idea. And to top it all off, they must always be happy. With this much pressure it is not wonder that Utah has ranked #1 in depression.
I've been told that I should not make the jump from depression straight to mormonism. Yet, I wonder, why Idaho and Wyoming (the only other primarily mormon states) would also be in the top 10 of most depressed, if there isn't? I'm thinking there must be some connection between being mormon and being depressed. Just a thought.
I've been seeing this picture posted all over downtown. It looks like something that would be sent into Postsecret. There really is a ton of pressure on people in their early 20's to get married in Utah.
It's fairly common for girls who are 20 or 21 years old to worry about marriage. It seems like being a 24 year old unmarried girl is just not ok. It's a little better if you are a guy. As most mormon boys do, they go on a mission for 2 years at the age of 18. So, if they go on a mission and then college, they could easily be 24 or 26 before they are ready to care for a family.
My boyfriend's sister is a great example. She is 21 and not married. She gets questioned about it all the time. And not from just the old church ladies but from girls her own age who are starting to get engaged or are already married.
Pushing people to get married young and then pushing them to have children soon after, may not be a great idea. And to top it all off, they must always be happy. With this much pressure it is not wonder that Utah has ranked #1 in depression.
I've been told that I should not make the jump from depression straight to mormonism. Yet, I wonder, why Idaho and Wyoming (the only other primarily mormon states) would also be in the top 10 of most depressed, if there isn't? I'm thinking there must be some connection between being mormon and being depressed. Just a thought.
